When beginning to think about the topics they would like to cover in their talks, about their formulations or about any other aspect concerning their future discourses at bridal receptions, there is an essential thing that all the speakers must not only take into account, but also be aware of and, most importantly, clarify.
It is the context of the wedding speeches. Mother of the groom, just like any other person who will speak at a party that celebrates the union of two persons, has to be crystal clear about ten elements or aspects, whose ensemble represents the context of her talk.
These ten details help the speaker not only to prepare his or her discourse, but also to deliver it in an impeccable manner. These ten elements define, in fact, what is the most important thing when it comes to a speech of any kind: its atmosphere.
And, when I say “atmosphere”, I refer not only to the environment, ambiance and circumstances where the discourse is offered, but also to the atmosphere that is actually created by the talk.
The Ten Components of the Context of a Mother of the Groom Wedding Speech
Let’s see now what exactly you have to clarify, with regards to your mother of groom speech. Well, there are, in fact, ten questions you have to ask yourself, then remember their answers and become aware of them, since they represent the essence of your talk. The ten elements of the context of the discourse that you will deliver during your son’s wedding ceremony or reception are:
- the atmosphere that you create with your talk;
- the impression about you that you create and let in your listeners’ minds;
- the general tone of your talk;
- the overall purpose of your discourse;
- the “duties” of your talk;
- the principal subject of your speech;
- the persons whom you ought to include in your discourse;
- the reason why you speak;
- the event at which you must speak;
- the immediate circumstances of your speech.
The questions corresponding to each of the aspects listed above are the following. They are enumerated in the order of their importance and also chronologically, in the sense of the order in which you should provide answers to them:
- What kind of atmosphere I would like to create with my discourse? How would I like to make the guests feel during my mother of the groom speech and even immediately after I finish speaking?
- How would I prefer my audience to see me because of my discourse? That is to say, because of what I say, how I say it and how I look and behave during my talk.
- How should my talk’s overall tone be so that I can create the preferred atmosphere and image about myself that I determined by answering to the previous two questions? To put it more accurately: How should my voice tone be? How should I move and address to my audience? How and where should I look? How should my gestures be? How should I catch my listeners’ attention to my discourse?
- What is the main thing that I want to achieve through my mother of the groom wedding speech? In other words, what is the main goal of my talk?
- What are the “duties” of my talk? That is to say, what are the tasks that I should accomplish by means of my discourse, tasks that are specified by the bridal protocol and by the customs in my region, or by the common sense?
- What would I prefer the principal subject of my speech to be? More precisely, what will be the main theme of my talk?
- What are the persons that I would like or should include in my discourse?
- Why will I speak at the party that will celebrate my son’s union? Do I want this or my son’s asked me to do this or the bridal protocol in our area states so?
- Will I speak at my son’s wedding ceremony or bridal reception?
- What will happen right before or right after my wedding speech? More exactly: Will there be more speakers? Who will speak before me? Will there be a master of ceremonies or a presenter? In other words, will I be introduced to my audience by a presenter or by my previous speaker, or will I have to present myself to the guests and attendees?
When it comes to the first element of your talk’s context and, of course, the first question previously indicated, you should know that it is advisable to create a relaxed and friendly atmosphere with your speech. The members of your audience should feel that they are your friends. Regarding the second aspect, it is important to create the image of a positive, happy, content, relaxed and confident woman, who knows how to treat her son’s guests.
The third element, the general tone of your discourse, should be colloquial, warm and friendly. In other words, it should be informal, unless you are a distant person, in which case it is more appropriate to you a formal wedding speech; examples of such discourses can be found on the Internet or in the useful resource that I promote here, on this website. An informal and friendly tone is defined by these sub-elements: speaking in the second person, asking brief questions, using your own words, being natural, modulating your voice for emphasizing the main ideas, wandering your eyes towards many guests.
Your talk’s major purpose should be to express your gratitude for the presence of the guests and for the fact that your son found his other half and began to build his own family. The “duties” of your discourse are to: first and foremost, create an enjoyable atmosphere; greet the attendees, welcome and thank the guests, congratulate your son, the groom, compliment the bride, bless the newlyweds and their new family, offer some advice for a harmonious marriage, describe your son.
The main theme of your mother of the groom wedding speech should be the gratitude. You ought to involve in your discourse all the attendees, by addressing directly to them, and especially the newlyweds, the bride’s parents and the assistants. Be careful to not forget to present yourself to your audience, if nobody introduces you. Avoid expressing a same idea in the same way as one of your previous speakers.