You are preparing for your daughter’s wedding reception and, in addition to all the worries generated by this special event (which are even greater if you and your husband are arranging this important party, according to the wedding protocol from many cultures), you must get ready for offering a toast, a mother of the bride speech, on this occasion. Having so many responsibilities, it’s really difficult to create such a speech, which has to be perfect, being the toast delivered by the bride’s mom. When it comes to this speech (that you will give at the wedding reception), you must relax, because I created this article special for coming to your aid. More exactly, I included in this post the topics that you ought to deal with in your oration, and also some of the best hints on creating and delivering a successful wedding speech.
General Structure of a Toast of the Bride’s Mother
There are only three parts that should form a typical speech: a brief opening section (in which you may indicate the major theme of your oration), a considerable main section (where the bride’s mom ought to deal with the main subject of her toast) and a small final part (in which you can include a summary of the principal topic of your speech).
The truth is that these three fundamental sections must be seen in every composition, be it literary or musical. The ideas that fit best into the introductory part of the mother of the bride speeches are the following: greetings for the wedding guests (which can range from something very short and simple, like “Hi, everybody!”, to something more elegant, like “Good evening, ladies and gentlemen!”, or more complete, like “Good evening, bride and groom, guests, family and friends!”), presentation of the speaker’s identity, welcomings and thankings for the attendees (for being there, with you and your family, celebrating your daughter’s wedding).
When speaking in front of a group of people (not to mention when you speak in front of a large audience), it’s important to be sure that your listeners know who is talking to them. As you can notice from the large number of mother of the bride speech examples (included in the resource shown on this website), the speaker should introduce herself to her audience, in one of the first sentences of her oration. A direct manner (“I’m the bride’s mom”) or an indirect one (“my daughter’s wedding”) can be used for introducing yourself.
The main section (the body) of such a wedding toast is recommended to include the following topics: welcoming your daughter’s new spouse (the groom) in your family, complimenting him, felicitating your daughter (the bride), describing her and offering her and her partner some advice. When you compliment the bridegroom during your mother of the bride wedding speech, you ought to avoid exaggerating; you can tell, for instance, what impressed you the most at him and even how your daughter’s love for him changed her for the better. In your oration’s body you can also tell how happy you are that your daughter has finally married and founded a family of her own.
When it comes to the advice that you can offer during your wedding toast, I must tell you that you can advice not only your daughter, but also her spouse, i.e. the bridegroom. More precisely, in numerous speech samples (that you can read in the resource on this webpage) can be found examples of tips for a good marriage, that are offered by the bride’s mother to the bride and her partner. These helpful tips can be things that you have learned from your own life experience. However, it’s essential to be careful not to hurt anyone’s feelings, especially the bride’s and the groom’s. Blessings for the newlyweds and their new family, as well as a toast proposal for them are the most appropriate things to include in the ending part of your wedding speech.
3 Hints for an Excellent Mother of the Bride Speech
When preparing for the oration that you will offer at your daughter’s marriage reception, it’s important to take into account (and also use, of course) some precious tips regarding not only the content of your speech, but also its presentation, that is the manner in which you deliver the toast’s content in front of the wedding guests. These are actually the powerful secrets of the successful speeches (of this kind, but not only), which you ought to utilize in both the creation stage (that’s the phase when you compose the text of your toast) and the practicing stage (when you rehearse the wedding speech that you created before).
The first hint I want to tell you about is actually the most important and effective tip on how to deliver a mother of the bride wedding speech just like a professional orator. This tip is to speak as if you were conversing with several members of your family or with your friends. In other words, it’s essential to avoid, if possible, a formal tone while giving your toast, and especially you must avoid looking like a pupil who tells the lesson in front of the teacher.
In order to better understand the importance of this first hint, I will tell you what you achieve by using a conversational tone instead of a formal one. First of all, you keep the wedding guests focused on your wedding toast, because the colloquial tone involves them into your speech, i.e. it determines the attendees to become a part of your toast. Interaction with the audience is actually the most powerful secret of the successful orations, and it can be achieved not only by using a colloquial tone, but also by speaking in the second person, asking the guests questions and looking at most of them (rather than looking in a single direction throughout your toast, like the poor orators usually do).
Another fundamental tip for an excellent mother of the bride speech, which refers to its content (more precisely, to its length), is to keep your wedding toast short, to maximum five minutes. While creating the text of your oration you ought to be aware of the purpose for which the guests will come to your daughter’s wedding reception: for entertaining themselves and for having fun. That’s why a long speech will bore them.